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Sex &
Aging  Testosterone in Women Sue:
Our culture is very youth oriented.
You never see couples over 35 having a meaningful intimate love relationship. Do
you think this will continue or will the media wake up and look at the demographics?
 Ruth:
The media is beginning to wake up to the scientific fact that a woman, healthy at
50, will probably live into her 80s and a woman, healthy at 60, will live into her 90s or
later. The seven years that men are behind women in lifespan is narrowing as well.
That means that the more than 100,000 individuals
who are centurions today will grow to more than two and 1/2 million persons over 100 years
of age alive by the mid-2000. That's a lot of people who will want to continue to
eat, sleep, and have intimate relationships in their advancing years. We'd better begin to
work at it. The media is showing couples, when he has taken Viagra, embracing in a
most-sensual way. Those ads, I believe, will get more real and closer to reality and kids
age 35 will look like young whipper-snappers. Little by little the May/December
relationship is being accepted even when she is "December" and he is
"May." Actresses and celebrities over the age of 40 are getting more parts
written for them and the viewers are becoming more comfortable with those of us that are
post-menopausal. We're hip, we're with it, and we're not taking a backseat to anyone
anymore. We're not invisible and we don't intend to be.
Sue:
Perimenopause and menopause can be times of real challenges in the bedroom.
With the lack of sleep, hot flashes and mood swings how can a woman manage to
have a satisfying and happy sex life?
Ruth:
There is no reason to give into those menopause symptoms and give away our sex
life! Sure hot flashes and their twin, night sweats, can cause insomnia and when we can't
get a good night's sleep, our moods are hard to keep in harmony. BUT there are now so many
ways to combat those symptoms. We know that hormone replacement therapy can bring our
lives back to the way we were. For women for whom hormones are not the answer, there are
now a number of really good non-hormonal products that really work and work well.
Exercise is also an important ingredient in a satisfactory
sex life. First of all, having those happy endorphin hormones circulating is a mood lifter
and when one exercises, she feels in control. When she's in control she feels better, and
looks better, and wants to share those feelings in an intimate way. Good nutrition is also
a route to sexual satisfaction. A glass of wine can put you in the mood, but a heavy meal
and more wine can put you to sleep sans intimacy. (I cover all the new estrogen and
non-hormonal products in my latest book, The Estrogen Answer Book.)
Sue:
Can you tell us 5 ways we could use tonight to having good sex : )?
Ruth:
Sure.
- Put the kids to bed
or send them to Grandma' house. Put out the dog and the cat.
- Agree not to answer the door
or the phone. Let the answering machine or voice mail pick up messages.
- Prepare a good meal.
Set the table for two. Place violets in the center of the table and have music
that you both like playing softly in the background.
- Three F words
Agree in advance not to discuss the three "F"words that kill ardor - -
Finances, Family, and Friends.
- Then, draw a bubble bath for two,
slip into it, and get ready for the good sex that follows.
Sue:
How do you define intimacy and how does it differ from having sex?
Ruth:
Intimacy covers the whole range of feelings and actions. Sharing the same dreams,
goal, and objectives is an example of non-sexual intimate relationships.
Kissing, hugging, hold-hands, and cuddling are all intimate
actions that may or may not lead to having sex. Having sex usually means having sexual
intercourse, which in itself can be wonderfully sexually satisfying, but having it within
the whole realm of intimacy can satisfy the soul. Intimacy is satisfying on its own and
may or may not lead to sexual relations. Conversely, sex without intimacy may be empty.
Sue:
Viagra is a break through medication that helps men perform better sexually and enhances
their sex lives. When do you think, we will see such a medication for women?
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